Sunday, 18 December 2016

People watching just got really interesting - PART I

I have to say that I love to observe other people. I take time while eating lunch on my own just to look at others and create a backstory for them.

"2 co-workers. Single. Mid-30s. Talking about their boss. They must be from the 450. I think they work at a bank. Their outfits are too serious, yet they don't speak like Lawyers. They probably have a crush on the same good looking boss. Tempted by his good looks perhaps. Maybe they are just kind to each to retrieve information from the other, and yet one will definitely make a move at the Christmas party."

I create stories like this often. I am probably not right. Yet, the fantasy of building this fiction keeps my mind entertained.

But. The best is when the story I tell myself is actually reality.

On a cold autumn day, I strolled in to my favorite gourmet sandwich shop in a little place not too far from my work. It was packed. There is something about gourmet sandwiches that everyone seems to like. How ridiculous to pay $14 for a sandwich, but what the hell. It's not like I'm going to make myself a chipotle chicken with mango salsa, avocado, toasted on a Ciabatta bread myself.  Ya know.

Target people watching couple spotted. Sitting down at the bar not too far from me. Hmm. Let me see.

"Man and woman. Very business-y. Early 40s. Look like co-workers but they seem to have some kind of sexual tension. She has a ring. He doesn't. Sitting at the bar. Going out for lunch could look too strange, yet, gourmet sandwiches is like a good middle. It's similar to going out on a semi-date, yet totally casual. Wouldn't want the other people from the office to get the wrong idea."

I keep eating my $14 sandwich, checking Flipboard, and scrolling through the ridiculous, yet hilarious Insta posts by @sarcasm_only and @girlwithnojob.

Look up. Back at my couple of the moment.

His hand is on her lap. Smooth move bro.

My story is playing out well! Well. Maybe they are married and he lost his ring. That's totally normal. My dad doesn't wear his wedding ring.

But. There's nothing that tells me that this couple is actually a couple.

I order myself a coffee, and keep trying to read their body language. I watched WAY too many episodes of Lie to Me. (PS. This show is AWESOME!)

She's shy, he's not so shy. She seems in to him, but not that much. Yet, he is looking at her with mega love eyes. So, maybe a new couple? Maybe she just got separated from her husband and this guy is the new rebound guy. Yeah. I know. I have quite the imagination.

So, finally, they get up. Walk to the door. And BOOM. He helps her with her jacket and sneaks in a little bisou. WOO. This is getting better and better.

I then get up and leave. Man. I wanted to bump in to these 2 again! I need to know the end of my story.

So. 2 weeks later. I walk in to a coffee shop in a completely other area of town. It's Saturday. I'm with a friend. We sit down on the available couches. I simply look around, just to see who's there, just like anyone does.

And then my best Saturday is about to unfold.

So who's sitting 2 tables down from my couches? Suave Business Man!!

My suave business man from the $14 sandwich shop is there, with.. ANOTHER WOMAN. Holding hands! Seem really gaga in to each other.

Holy Crap. This is like my own personalized soap opera.

I promptly tell my friend what's happening. and that I have seen this guy before with another woman. And of course, he's loving this story as much as I am. We decide to watch them a little.

This woman is different. Brunette. The other was blonde. Casually dressed. Cute hair. Looks much younger than the woman from the sandwich shop. And is TOTALLY in to my Suave Business Man.

This guy is killing it.

He may just be dating a couple of women at the same time. No big deal. Right? Wrong.

She gets up to go to the bathroom, and well I'm not 100% sure, but she has quite the bump at the tummy level. Yeah. You know what I'm saying. THIS LADY IS PREGGO.......

Now, I got to keep you on your toes...I found out a lot more about my mystery people, but I guess you'll need to wait for PART II to find out more!


Friday, 8 July 2016

What it feels feel indescribable chemistry

It's Thursday. Thirsty Thursday to be exact. And you are having a blast with your friends at some crowded happy hour bar. You stopped counting your drinks, and you are just in a good mood. You hit that perfect level of tipsy where you feel invincible, where you feel sexy, where you feel you can do anything and talk to anyone

Wait. Is that your ex from 2010 walking pass you? Why yes it is. Is he married with a kid now? Why yes he is. Let's go say hi. #invincible.

Talk talk talk talk. He seems happy to see you. Mentions that you are a bit tipsy. Is it that obvious? I guess it's the energy. The energy you can give off when all insecurities are no longer an issue is electrifying (go Grease Lightninnng...). You are on your game.

And then.

Someone. Some random someone pulls your sunglasses off your shirt. You know, when you folded them on to your top. So of course. you turn around, trying to see what this person wants to do with your Ray Bans.

You turn around. At first you don't recognize him. But. It's him. This is no random person.

Oh Shit.

It's hard to define this relationship you have with this someone. But it's one that probably bothered you the most. It's the relationship that you know you shouldn't keep in your life, but the magnetism between the 2 of you is strong, it's almost disturbing. You both argue like crazy, yet both care about each other like crazy. You know that you'd probably do anything for this other person, but you decided to stop talking because seriously, the arguing was too frequent. Even when you decided that being friends was a better outcome for the 2 of you, you'd still argue.

Arguments about values, lifestyle, cars, stupid stupid things. You are both hard headed. That doesn't make a good mix.

He drives you the most crazy, you know that rationally, there is NO WAY you would ever want to be in a relationship with him.


It had been 6 months since you last spoke, since you last argued. Someone who you used to speak to every other day.

As your ex left the conversation, walked away...right then and there, it seemed like you and Mister Passion there, had never fought at all. It seemed like in the most crowded bar in the city, you were alone.

Of course, the tipsiness in both you helped you forget the past, remember the true essence of why you were this close. Because at the true core, both of you were drawn to each other. You were meant to learn something from each other.

He takes you in his arms, squeezes you with all his might, like he might never let you go.

"I don't even remember the last time I hugged someone like that before" he tells you.

You simply can't take your hands off him. He can't take his hands off you. This serene moment in your relationship where you wish it could have been like this every day, all the time.

You look in to each other's eyes, mumble some stuff.  You catch up. And both go your separate ways. Before meeting again by the bar. Like magnets. Drawn back to each other.

"Should I kiss you?" he tells you. Probably joking. So you hold his face, you pull him in close, and right before kissing him on the lips, just how you would have wanted it to go, you kiss him on the neck. Let's hope your red lipstick doesn't leave a mark. You're not in the home wrecker business.

"What do you want from me?" You ask him.

"We can't be friends." he tells you.

You're hurt. Of course. But you agree. You don't feel as invincible. How can 2 people with this kind of relationship be friends? This isn't sustainable.

You let him go. Hoping to never bump in to him again.

You watch him walk out, to his girlfriend, to his life. And remember that there is such a thing as indescribable chemistry, and that you just need to find it in someone else who will be right for you.


*NB. All stories are embellished of course!