Monday, 26 August 2013

How Disney screwed me up

For all long as I can remember, I have been a Disney fan. Not just a small Disney fan, but a hardcore fan. I can probably recite every single word in Aladdin, including songs: Prince Ali fabulous he Ali-Ababoua (I seriously wrote that as it sounds...) "TEN THOUSAND YEARS can give you such a crick in the neck!" Those Genie words. PRICELESS. How amazing was that movie? How romantic is that magic carpet ride? A whole new world! So magical, so beautiful, so dreamy. I'm sure every 10 year old boy had a crush on Jasmine. "Do you trust me?" AWW. 




Then, there's Sleeping Beauty - My favorite scene is when they get ready for Aurora's birthday with the cake and dress - going from Blue to Pink! But I look back at these movies and I'm like. Shit man. They screwed up my idea on how love is supposed to be! Just watch this, you'll see what I mean!! 



Like seriously. In Sleeping Beauty - she sings a song: I know you, I walked with you once upon a dream. And BOOM. Prince shows up, dances with her, and then they fall in love. AND THEN, he needs to kiss her so she can wake up from pricking her finger on a Spinning Wheel (a spinning wheel - now that's old school!).  
That stuff ain't real! 

People don't just sing songs and have handsome perfect Princes walk into their lives! Men don't go around the entire city to find that girl that lost their shoe at their bar - and damn.. If you lose your shoe at the bar, you must have had quite the night. Chill out on the Tequila next time OK? ;)

And really Eric in Little Mermaid - man if only Princes were so down to Earth. Hey. Me too I want a cool Prince like that. Princes like that don't even exist. I want a chill Prince that takes walks on the beach with his big hairy dog! Where are those Princes? 

As little girls, we were pushed into thinking that we would have this amazing Prince show up at our door, declare their undying love for us and sweep us off our feet, as we ride on a horse into the sunset and live happily ever after...

Stuff like that just doesn't happen in real life. Now we are in a world of constant texting, bar meeting, Tinder, commitment phobes, playing cat & mouse, play the chase, play the game... and I feel that even though I am 29 and have met all sorts of different people... I still believe in Disney love. 

I am a dreamer, a lover, an optimist. In today's world, I am what you call naive. I believe in true love, I believe in soul mates, I believe in your perfect match. I believe in growing old with someone. I believe in happily ever afters. I believe in passionate caring love. I believe Disney screwed me up into believing that this perfect fairy tale is real. And to be honest, I'm still counting on something like that, despite what I have seen in real life...

What I have learned is to manage my expectations a little more, to be more open-minded, but not to settle. To keep my standards high, but to not give up on the one thing I really want in life, and that's to share my life with someone I love and that loves me back just as much. and that treats me with real care. 

I have been lucky enough to have some special moments, meet special people that make me think that finding this "pure true love" is possible. I may be living in a fairy tale, but then again, I guess I rather have a positive outlook instead of a negative one. See! Disney brainwashed me. And I can't even get myself out of it!

A Prince may not show up at my door dressed in silver armor - but I may meet him one sunny Wednesday night, as I'm having drinks with friends, he may not be a perfect Prince, but perfect for me, and I guess at the end of the day, that's all that really matters, right?

N.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

This stuff is real! I met my prince!!...you just have to be patient but some day a guy will sweep you off your feet and be everything you every dreamed of.

Natalie Courey said...

I'm happy your fairy tale came true! I wish we all find our Princes :)

Tomas G said...

Nat so often often i find you commenting on these posts and always find it interesting to answer them (i only saw you commented after i read it). I think society just straight fucks all of us up, good guys finish last is just the basic truth. People are just so overwhelmed by information and driven by consumption that life is not about getting what's good for you but always what has the possibility of being better for you. The article talks about games, and that's just the sad reality brought upon us by our over consumption. You always want what you can't have. As soon as you have something you want the next best thing. This sadly applies to everything in our lives. i am a man, and until i find the mother(s) of my children i will not settle.

Shit needs to change, poeple need to stop listening to society (disney) or making its decision based on its constructs.

I for one chose to be happy outside of these social ideology brought by disney or the bariers imposed by religion. i do what i want when i want and would expect anyone who is ever with me to do the same. i say let's all just love each other and be happy.

Sammy DeRossi said...

I stopped using tinder a few weeks ago… too many douches for my liking lol. My coworker showed me cliqie.com and I’m a big fan of that over the others in terms of actually meeting people vs. just entertainment. It has a different approach that feels less sketchy cause you and your friends essentially act as “wingmen”. I like that it helps you find things to do too. Skout’s okay too, but still has it’s fair share of creepers