Sunday, 12 May 2013

What is a good friendship?

First of all, I want to thank everyone that gave me their input on the "Voice over Blog" thing I tried last week. In the future, I will be doing something sorta similar, but instead of reading my own blog, I will have discussions. Discussions about different blog-related subjects. Usually with a special guest! So, if there is anything you want me to talk about, let me know! AND, if you want to be my special guest, that can be arranged too. I can be reached in the comments below or via my Facebook page: What it feels like for a girl (If you don't LIKE the page, well LIKE it already!!) I know we are all dealing with issues of the heart so someone's got to talk about it!

Ok, now on to the subject of the week....

This weekend, I was subject to a few particular situations that didn't really involve me, but that I became aware of. I have written about this before, but it seems to come up so often with so many people, that I can't help but express my opinion. All events lead to this question: What is a good friendship?

We have all heard the saying - you can only count your true friends on your 5 fingers. The really good ones that you can call at any time in the morning and that will be there for you. The ones that will rush to the hospital on a Saturday night if something happens to you, the ones that will help you move your entire apartment, the ones that will just be there. I truly believe that people with those friendships are the lucky ones. 

A friendship is basically like a couple relationship without the attraction and the sex. It's based on the same principles of trust, love, generosity, care, good times, not always so good times and everything in between. That's how I see it. You need to nurture that relationship, spend time with that person, strengthen the bond. These friendships can last a lifetime. 

But sometimes not. 

Not to sound too pessimistic, but like any type of relationship, we grow a part, we change, our interests change, we don't get along and sometimes we still remain friends just for the sake of time. By time I mean, we are friends with someone because well, we have been friends with them forever, and not necessarily because we have a strong bond with that person anymore. 

But I have seen that some of the friendships you would think are the strongest, just fall a part. I have seen some really heartbreaking stuff. 20 years relationships, torn to shreds. I wonder if we don't work as hard to keep a friendship as we would a relationship. I wonder if at the sign of a trouble, instead of working it out, and believing in that 20 year friendship, we toss it to the side. Do we give up too easily?  

I have been analyzing that question all evening, pondering on what we are becoming as people. Are we too individualistic? Have we been taught to not accept someone to mistreat us at all, and at the sign of the slightest issue, we push away, thinking that it's in our best interest? 

Don't get me wrong though, if you don't want that person in your life because they don't bring you any good, well so be it, take your distance. But. when the going gets tough, I think we should spend more time fixing the issue instead of throwing it away. No one is perfect, and no one always says or does the right things. I do believe in filtering the friends you don't need in your life, but when it comes to those really good ones that have stuck by you through thick and thin, don't they deserve another chance? 

All in all to say - when you have those good friends, keep them close, and if they should make mistakes, before exiting them out of your lives, I think we need to really work at fixing the problem. I think we were put in this world for that specific reason, to deal with people, to live in society and build relationships. So let's do that! Keep that good friendship! 

Have a great week yall!

N.




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