First, let’s define, what is a cyber stalker? I’m not talking about googling or facebooking a dude that you are going on a date with tomorrow night, or looking at your friends pictures. I’m talking about stone cold check his/her Facebook profile every day, looking at old pictures, googling and even checking his/her friends profiles to get the scoop on what’s happening with this person. It’s stalking. It’s knowing too much about a certain person. And it’s freaking creepy. OK?
But we can’t deny it. We love to see what people are doing. No wonder all those tabloid or Hollywood celebrity or even PerezHilton.com sites and magazines work so well. We like knowing about other people’s lives. So I don’t see why it would be any more different when it comes to the dating world. With Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and any other social platform you might be interested in, it’s almost impossible to know nothing about someone, unless you don’t know their family name or if they have a common name like Bob Smith, or Jean-Pierre Tremblay. These new platforms have made it almost impossible for us not to develop more curiosity when it came to others. But sometimes that curiosity goes a wee bit too far. And BOOM. You’re a cyber stalker.
Of course, there are different levels of cyber stalkers, I should even some kind of quiz to see how INTENSE of a cyber stalker you actually are. That’s for a next post.
So HOW do YOU know if you are one of those cyber stalkers?
1. Do you check someone’s FB profile every day, even though they didn’t update it?
2. Do you check someone’s friends, see who they are, see if you have friends in common with them, and ask your friends about that person? (I’m talking about when you want to get to know someone better!)
3. Do you check their LinkedIn profile more than once a week?
4. Do you Google them and try to find as many pictures as you can of them?
5. Do you check their FB profile even though they aren’t friends with you?
6. Do you check everywhere to find their profile if their name is either common or family name is unknown?
7. Do you look through their profile pictures 20 times a month?
8. Do you analyse their FB posts? WHO LIKED THAT? WHO IS THAT?
If you answered YES to 1 or more of these questions, well I hate to break it to you, but you’re a cyber stalker. Now, there is nothing too WRONG with this because well the information is out there, but if you are about to go on a date with a guy and you already know that he was a hockey player in high school, with an A- average at the University of Timbaktu, loves House and Old School Rock and Roll and his ex’s name is Sandra, well my friend, you need to stop that shit. What happened to surprises and learning about someone?
I challenge you tomorrow – to not stalk. To not go look at your ex’s profile, to not look up the cute dude you met at the bar on Saturday or to check your ex’s current gf’s profile. DON’T DO IT. Life is so much saner without all that extra information. What are you going to do with it anyways? Torture yourself? Get less of a surprise? Or make conclusions about someone without giving them the time of day? BAH. Boring. Isn’t life so much more exciting when you are naive?
Have a great week buddies.