Monday, 25 June 2012

She's just not that into you...


I am a lean mean writing machine! I am trying to write at least once a week, and keep you updated with different subjects. Luckily, lately I have been inspired. This next post is long overdue. I was summoned as some kind of "Woman Doctor", in other words, a dude friend of mine needed help with a lady that was giving him a hard time. Honestly, he needed a woman to talk to about a woman. Let's just say that there was DAILY communication, this girl stressed him out BIG TIME.

You see, there will always be those people that get under your skin. Those people that you love to hate, or hate to love, either way, those people that drive your brain cuckoo, those people that make you sit down and look at yourself and you tell yourself SHEESH, What the hell is wrong with me? I like to call them "evil". I know, it's not a very nice word to use, because really deep down they aren't EVIL, but the way they make you feel is EVIL. In the case with my friend, he was in quite the sticky situation, interested in a girl that only seemed interested when drunk. That my friends = BAD NEWS. Red Flags. Sound the alarm for goodness sakes!

This is a clear case of the "he's not that into you". You see, this concept goes both ways... for men and women. You want something, but bof, not THAT much.. if they are in the same place as you, or close to you, that's great, if not, well too bad.  The problem is, when you show too much interest, the other knows that they can play yo-yo with you. In these cases, when you have fallen for someone, and the other one shows more or less interest - live by this saying! DO IT.
This is the oldest trick in the book! But why do we have so much trouble putting it into practice? Why do we have hot fingers when it comes to texting, chatting or calling and suddenly out of the blue, we are writing or calling that person we shouldn't! We know it's wrong, we know we should let them come to us, BUT WE DO IT ANYWAYS! It's like some magical gnome put a spell on us and before we know it, we're pressing SEND and regretting every second after doing it, but still manage to do it again at some other time.

The best advice I was able to give him was to let destiny take it's course. Yeah, I believe in that stuff. I believe in things that are meant to be, that everyone you meet if for a reason, whether it's to teach you something, to help them become something, whatever. He put his cards on the table, now, her move. He showed his interest, she knew. Ball is in her court. The last thing anyone wants is to be pressured. Because let me tell you, in a society where 80% of the time, you need to take the long scenic freaking route through the valley and the mountains and by Uncle Bob's house and take ALL THE TIME IN THE WORLD before actually deciding to commit to anything, clearly, giving the other one space is crucial.

So how can learn by my friend's experience? Simple. You got the guts, you show your cards and then you wait for their turn. If they don't play - well that's your cue to move on. Lot's of annoying heartaches and game playing prevented! (Of course, I know how we all work, you're gonna get in to that game and learn the hard way! Never say I didn't tell you so!)

N.

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