Monday, 21 February 2011

Got Balls? No. Got Boobs!

The role of the man has always been to be the strong, protective, decision maker. And the role of the woman has always been to be the caring, loving, nurturing one. The man is supposed to sweep the woman off her feet, chase her until he can get her and then in due time, ask her to be his wife. The woman is supposed to be showered with gifts, flowers, requests that she denies, to be chased, to be adored and wanted. Are these roles the same today?  I'm not quite sure. 

We do not live in 50s-60s romance tales anymore where the man fights to get his woman. Sometimes we see it the other way around. The women are the ones that go after the man they want, sometimes they get it, sometimes they don't. But I believe that throughout the years, with women gaining more importance in society and becoming more equal to the male, they believe they have the power to do as the man does. I have read on the news how women have asked their man to marry them, or that instead of the woman staying home to take care of the kids, the man does. Does this emasculate the man? Do men feel weaker? Maybe. But sometimes, the woman just needs to take things in her own hands and deal with them, make the first steps and build her life as she wants it to.

Some tend to disagree and prefer the traditional way to court, have the man come after the woman. I must agree. As much as the trends are changing, the man's mentality still remains the same. He needs to be the protector, the provider, the strong one and to be honest, that's how I want my man to be. But in some situations, men don't step up to the plate as much as they used to. The reasons for this are numerous, 1 being - they aren't ready for commitment, 2 - they aren't ready for commitment, 3 - they are enjoying being free. As we know, biologically speaking, men are made to seek as much sex as they can get, so they can spread their seed wider, women are made to seek as many admirers as they can get, so they can make a better choice and get the best seed. Shitty huh? 

Men and women are so different, then again, need each other so much. Women realize this and decide that they are the ones that need to go after what they want. But not only when it comes to love, when it comes to anything really. I find a lot of women these days are showing great acts of courage, guts and you know when they : "Wow, that person's got balls!" well they should say: "Wow, that person's got BOOBS!" because really I applaud the women that have the guts to go after what they want. Not just sit and wait for it to happen. Now, as Mae West would say: you don't have to be anti-man to be pro-woman! I'm far from being anti-man, I love men. But I just wish they would step up to the plate sometimes, and do something bold and HAVE THE BALLS TO DO IT! 

What are your thoughts? Do you think women are taking over the man's role? Do you prefer the new way, or traditional way? Maybe all we need is a perfect middle - hmm got round things?



Anonymous said...

OMG! I prefer the traditional way! However, I must say that I've been witnessing a lot of women not requiring it so much (showing their independant side) so I think it causes men to slowly become more&more lazy in terms of making the effort to be a 'prince charming'. Actually, I think that kind of guy is endangered species!!! We need to charish the last ones or we will need to re-educate men lol! a+ sk

Anonymous said...

Partially disagree...
You mention that guys 1) can't commit, 2) can't commit or 3) enjoy their freedom. What about 4) just aren't interested in the girl?
As a guy, I have to admit, the role reversal is sometimes fun, because it does get annoying to always do the approaching. It's very refreshing to see a girl not only "step up to the plate", but "step out of the mold". It differentiates them from the rest of the herd of princesses waiting to be swept off their feet. Maybe role reversal is just what we need. What's the point in hitting on a girl if she's just like the others: waiting for the tough guy to come along.
Now, as I mentioned, I partially disagree. I recently had 2 dates, both of which approached me. This was great, for reasons I previously mentioned, but none of them really did it for me. Does this mean I won’t be interested in any girl that approaches me? No. I just wasn’t interested in these two. Bottom line, you shouldn’t wait for the person to come over, guy or girl. If you see someone that gets you going, go up to them. Strike up a conversation. Just because “traditional” means the guy made the first move, does “new” really mean the girl now makes the first move? How about “new” means anybody makes the first move. And like any good race, it’s always better to be first...
...then again, this is just my opinion. I could be wrong.

N. said...

Great insight! I do agree with your point of view. An interesting angle on this trend. I do hope that in future you continue to give your comments. Insightful and well thought out.