But my question is... why? Why would someone in a relationship get involved with someone else? Answers are endless, either a sexual reason, or they need some spice in their life (their relationship is boring), or to see if they still "got it" or they fell into temptation. I think that most people enjoy these types of relationships because they feel they had something more special to offer, that they were somewhat more interesting, sexier, smarter than their current GF or BF. But with time, after being shut down and them going back to their GF, we should realize how this was a ridiculous pleasure because you never really end up winning in the long run. Yes, we may win the battle, but we never win the war. There is excitement and interest, the sneaking around is a thrill, but at one point, he/she might realize what they are doing is wrong, and go back to their spouse, and well leave you, alone.
So, if you do decide to go along with is, this is my advice to you, stand guard. Because I know you probably will give it a try, life is short and you never want to regret not following through with something. And if it's for the sex, well if you really want the sex, then have sex! But keep in mind, that's all that it is, some good entertainment. But have him or her come to you. You really need to stand your mark on this one. Keep the emotions down, and really make an effort to keep a closed heart, because you don't want to end up the really hurt one in the end.
Then again, I really want to emphasise the fact that you are better than that and that you deserve someone who will actually want to spend time with you and get to know you and have that develop into something better. We can never underestimate how great we are and how much we really deserve. Sometimes, that's hard to act on.
Has this happened to you this situation? Were you hurt? Or did you get the guy or girl? And if you succeded, what did you do? Any tips or tricks to dealing with this sticky situation? Im sure a lot of you must have lived through something similar.. and your experiences can help others!