Sunday, 2 January 2011

New Years Resolutions are nonsense

Toilet in the living room
Happy New Year everyone! Hope you all had a good time! I surely did. As I said before, house parties are fabulous. Mine was like a glorified house party with a bar, an oyster bar, a DJ, a dance floor and even heating posts outside! It was great and I thank the hosts for putting on such a great party! I have to say, the toilet bowl in the middle of the living room was the perfect touch. If your NYE didn’t go as planned, that’s OK, no problem. It’s an overrated night anyways. We always have so many expectations and I don’t believe that how you celebrate new years sets the tone for the New Year. You make the best of your year.

I don’t really believe in New Years resolutions, because most of the time along the way, those resolutions are broken and not really followed. But I do believe in giving yourself goals that you would like to achieve in the next year. Whether it is for your career, to buy a new home, to build better relationships with people around you, or to get back into shape. My advice is to start small.  When making new years resolutions we tend to want to change ourselves completely. To become super in shape when we might be really far from that goal, or to always be punctual when we are always late. There is NO way that will work if we give ourselves big goals. So start small. If you believe you need to improve your relationship with your siblings for instance.  First, choose 1 sibling to begin with, and take that sibling for lunch, or try to find an activity that you know that sibling loves.  Try to enjoy it, try to build a good bond.  Or you want to get back into shape, I’m telling you right away that you won’t lose tons of weight in the first few weeks. That is the typical New Year’s Resolution.  It’s crazy how packed gyms become right after New Years.  For some, yes it might work, you might join a gym, get a trainer, change your food intake and BAM lose 20 pounds. For others, it ain’t so easy. For women, I suggest you find a class that interests you. Zumba, Salsa, Step, Kickboxing, whatever! Studio Breath close to the Atwater Market downtown offers all sorts of classes. I suggest you look into it and find a class you can go to 1-2 times a week and start there. Having a schedule and even a partner to go with is motivating and you know you have an obligation to go. 

As for food, it’s really all about portions. For those who don’t know me, since 2004 I have lost over 35 pounds on and off. I have gained some, lost some and now it’s been stable for a while now. And to be honest, the only way I lost this weight was my food intake. I’m not a big fan of the gym, I do love classes though, but that’s not how I lost all the weight. Portion control was what worked for me. Now, I know it probably won’t work for most of you because yes you get hungry and yes being hungry is the WORST. But I eat what I want, I eat poutine when I feel like poutine and I eat chocolate when I want chocolate. But I eat all in moderation and smaller portions. My stomach is smaller and I get full faster.  The trick I found to losing this weight is to go to bed a little hungry. That’s how I started. I would eat small portions for dinner and then I would STAY AWAY from the fridge. If this interests you and need more advice, you know how to reach me!

For those of you that need to make a step in your career, you can hire someone like Gabrielle Vaugeois (“Interview with a Best Friend”) to help put you in the right direction, or you can give yourself a kick in the bum and do something about it.  If you have waited all this time to do something about, maybe you do need someone to help you out.  You know sometimes we need that little extra push to get the move on.

Basically, it’s all in the small steps, because the chances that you do succeed in reaching your goal are much higher if you take it easy and set realistic goals. And if you are content with your life with nothing to change, well then that’s great for you. But I’m sure there is always room for improvement. Whether it be to volunteer more, to be more organized, to spend more quality time with your friends, to learn more about a certain culture, language or cuisine. Ohhh that’s a really interesting one. Learning about a new cuisine! I am such a foodie. I think that will be the subject of my next post. Since I’m Lebanese (well half leb but anyways), I am going to let you in to some of the delicious easy leb cooking and restaurants in and around Montreal that can give you a great taste of Lebanese cooking!

Until then, as my last words of wisdom, I think you got the message. You have goals for the new year? Start small and you will succeed! I hope all of you have a great 2011, that this year will bring you all great success, happiness, love and of course health! I know we always wish each other good health, but seriously, without your health, nothing else seems to matter. So.. I wish you all great great health! J


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